message vs. messenger

Avoid using I

The Germans avoid using the word I. Whether in letters, postcards or emails, a sentence should never begin with I. Germans prefer to use either indirect speech or the passive form.

Especially common in German is the use of the word man or one. Germans believe that they should not speak too much about, or directly refer to themselves. To place yourself in the middle of attention is considered to be self-centered, not objective, and therefore not persuasive.

There is a German figure of speech: Der Esel nennt sich immer zuerst, literally meaning the donkey always names itself first. German children are taught to say: Hans und ich … instead of Ich und Hans. Hans and I, instead of I and Hans.

German schools teach their pupils to remain analytical, objective and to leave themselves as individuals out of the discussion. Textbooks explicitly avoid the word Ich, instead recommending: “The logical conclusion follows, that …”. Or “From based on the presented arguments, one could draw the conclusion, that …”. Or “It should be noted, that …”.

Party and Platform First

German political conventions demonstrate clearly that in Germany, substance is more important than form. For decades the podium was set to the side, with the stage dominated by up to fifty party leaders sitting in three or four extended rows.

And although in recent years the podium has been moved front and center, the stage continues to be dominated by party leaders. The message is clear. The party and its political platform remain front and center.

German political parties also do their best to keep hidden their internal power struggles. Instead they are presented as debates over substance which should be resolved internally and speedily. The politicians involved are quick to state that the battle is not about themselves or political office, but about important issues of substance.

Americans link message and messenger. The message, its form, and its presenter create a unity. In the U.S. business context the presenter takes center stage. Americans believe that “you sell yourself first, then your product or service.” Examples

Message vs. Messenger

Germans separate message from messenger. The presenter consciously and purposely moves into the background, so that the message takes center stage. Germans believe that arguments should speak for themselves. Examples

Message vs. Messenger

German Approach

American Approach

American View

Americans, in stark contrast, find the separation of message and messenger impersonal, abstract, sterile, even drab. To distance oneself from one’s own message is interpreted by Americans as risk-averse, disinterested, and anything but persuasive. “If he himself is not convinced by his message, why should we be?”

German View

Germans react ambivalently to linking message and messenger. An overly personalized presentation style is on the one side both motivating and attractive. At the same time, however, Germans are persuaded more by rational argumentation. “There must be a reason why he is appealing to our emotions instead of to our reason.” Germans are not persuaded by the messenger-first approach.

Advice to Germans

Identify yourself with your message. Literally use the word I. Draw on your personal experience by using anecdotes. Put your heart into it. Show emotion.

Give signals when you are a subjective participant in your story and when you are an objective observer. When persuading Americans you cannot take yourself fully out of the equation.

Advice to Americans

Temper the showman in you. Be a little coy. Hint at almost a scepticism in your own message. Neither invite nor challenge your listeners to like or dislike you as a person.

In fact, take yourself out of the equation altogether. It‘s all about the message and not about the messenger. You are not on any kind of stage. Speak to their heads, not to their hearts.