Ordering for Face

“We used to think that ordering more dishes when treating guests gave us face. Now the waiters remind us to order moderately, and that is good. Now we take pride in a clean plate.” A diner named Yan said this in a Beijing restaurant in August 2020, during the Clean Plate campaign against food waste.

A People’s Daily commentary that September described the habit. Some people are frugal at other times, it said, but when they host, “even three or five people order a whole big table.” In some places, if the guests eat every dish, “the host feels he has no face.” Its headline gave the answer. Wasting food “is not having face, but losing face.”

Sitting on the Hood

On March 27, 2019, Xue Chunyan took delivery of a Mercedes-Benz CLS 300 from the Lizhixing dealership in Xi’an and found a problem with the engine. She negotiated with the dealer several times for an exchange or a refund, without success. On April 11, a video of her sitting on the hood of a car at the dealership, crying and complaining, began to spread online.

By April 17, the two sides had reached a settlement. On May 27, the market regulator fined the dealership one million yuan. Car owners in other cities copied her and sat on car hoods at their own dealerships.

The private talks had brought nothing for two weeks. The settlement came six days after the video appeared.

Pick Up the Chopsticks

In November 2018, Dolce & Gabbana promoted a large show in Shanghai with videos titled Qi kuai chi fan, Pick Up the Chopsticks and Eat. The brand deleted them from Weibo. On November 21, a screenshot of a private chat with the designer Stefano Gabbana spread on Weibo. That evening the show was cancelled. Its stage, which had cost eight million yuan, was already built.

In a later apology video, the two founders said duibuqi, sorry, in Chinese. Chinese Wikipedia files the episode under the heading “the controversy over insulting China.”

Sayings on Face

人活脸,树活皮 A person lives by face, a tree lives by its bark. A person must guard his good name. Also 人要脸,树要皮.

打人休打脸,骂人休揭短 When hitting someone, do not hit the face. When scolding someone, do not expose his faults.

揭短 To expose a person’s shortcomings and make them public.

得饶人处且饶人 Where one can spare a person, spare him. To be tolerant and leave room. The line is from the Song writer Yao Kuan.

留余地 To leave room. Not to go to extremes in speech or action, so that there is space to turn back.

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