French conflict culture favors bringing disputes into the open rather than avoiding or suppressing them. Expect French colleagues to address disagreements directly—stating concerns clearly, challenging positions openly, and insisting that matters be discussed rather than ignored. This directness can be uncomfortable if you are accustomed to more indirect approaches; French conflicts may be louder and more confrontational than you expect.
But the cultural logic holds that suppressed conflict festers and worsens, while addressed conflict can be resolved. Avoidance is not peace but merely postponed reckoning. When French counterparts seem eager to “have it out,” they are not being aggressive but rather pursuing resolution through direct engagement.
The cultural expression s’expliquer—to explain oneself, to put cards on the table—captures this value. If you avoid confrontation, French colleagues may perceive you as unwilling to engage honestly or as allowing problems to fester.
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