Information access is structured in concentric circles based on relationship proximity. The innermost circle—nuclear family, closest confidants—accesses information that outer circles do not. Extended family may know family matters but not the most sensitive ones. Close friends know personal matters but not family secrets.
Acquaintances know what is socially visible. The general public knows only what is publicly presented. Each circle has appropriate information for that level of relationship. Understand your circle membership with different people—what information is appropriate for your relationship level.
Do not expect inner-circle information if you are in outer circles; do not share inner-circle information with outer circles. Boundary maintenance between circles matters; information that leaks from inner to outer circles violates norms and may damage relationships. When uncertain about circle placement, err toward caution—treating someone as more distant than they are offends less than inappropriately sharing sensitive information.
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