Shikaru (叱る): to scold. Okoru (怒る): to get angry. Japanese advice on raising children keeps the two apart. A parenting article in the magazine Oggi says the decisive difference is whether one wants to convey something to the other person. Getting angry is taking out one’s own irritation on them.
A school document puts it briefly. Getting angry is throwing one’s feelings at the other person. Scolding is giving them advice.